Money is the thing couples fight about. Almost nobody gives it four hours a year.
That is all this is: twelve twenty-minute conversations, one a month, in an order that stops the hardest ones landing first.
Most couples do not have a budgeting problem. They have a conversation problem. One of you quietly carries the bills. One of you does not know the real number. Nobody has ever said out loud how much either of you can spend without checking. It works fine — right up until the year it doesn't.
The Money Date Kit gives you the exact words. Every question is written out. You read them aloud, take turns, set a timer for twenty minutes, and write down what you decided. That is the whole method.
What you get
The printable planner — 23 pages, US Letter
- Six ground rules that make a monthly money date survivable, including the twenty-minute timer and the no-decisions-in-the-first-five-minutes rule
- Your money story — a side-by-side worksheet on how money worked in the house each of you grew up in, because that is what most money arguments are actually about
- Two full disclosure sheets, one each: what comes in, what you have, what you owe, down to the thing you nearly left off
- Where the money lives — fully joint, yours-mine-ours, or separate, compared honestly, including how each one fails
- Four ways to split shared costs — fifty-fifty, proportional to income, equal after personal, and full pool — with what each one does to the lower earner
- Our money rules — a one-page agreement you both sign: the split, the threshold above which you consult each other, the no-questions money, the emergency fund, the family cap